What do you want from your spouse?
If someone asked you this question most people would easily rattle off a laundry list of qualities and actions they would like to have in or from their spouse.
The best relationship lists should actually start with you.
We cannot make anyone be a certain way but we can all choose how we act.
When we try our best to “Be” the best partner for our spouse we will find that we “Get” a better spouse in the bargain.
Rather than complaining about how you see things, tell your spouse what you need.
Rather than telling your spouse that you’re tired of having to plan and cook every meal; remind them that you would like to go out sometime and perhaps even suggest a favorite place where you have fond memories of sharing a meal with your spouse.
Rather than seeking to fix the deficiencies we may see in our spouse, let us instead seek to work on ourselves.
Let us ask “What can I do differently?” or “How can I react differently to highly emotional conversations?”
Counting to 10 (even doing it a few times) before giving a negative reply is much better than blurting out the first thought that comes to mind.
You cannot take back words spoken. You can only ask for forgiveness.
It is MUCH better to say nothing at first and then give a positive response after thinking about the topic.