Marriage is a Commitment:
When a man and woman say, “I do,” they are vowing to each other before the Lord that they will stay together until one of them dies. The Lord Jesus clearly taught what God expected when He said: Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning “made them male and female,” and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate (Mt. 19:4-6). The marriage vow is the verbal expression of a lifelong commitment made in the mind and heart. That’s God’s design. The richest fulfillment of the promise of marriage is anchored in that concept. When we say in the vow, “until death do we part,” we mean a lifetime. This promise is not made to be broken. It is not made lightly. It is a choice we make day by day to live in this committed relationship for the rest of our lives. In sickness and in health, in good times as well as bad, for richer and for poorer. We may not “Feel” in love every day but we can all choose to act as if we were and we all know that our feelings follow our actions.
Love is a Choice:
Love is patient and kind. Love does not envy, is not rude, does not remember wrongs but rejoices in the right. Marriage is saying to your spouse “I chose to love you forever”. Your marriage commitment means “I will love you whether I feel like it or not”. You will most likely not “feel” like you are in love all the time. You may even feel like “I don’t like my spouse right now”. You know that your feelings will change in time. Your feelings will follow your actions. As you act like you love your spouse, your feelings of love will grow. Make up your mind right now that you will be committed to loving your spouse for the rest of your life. Once you have committed yourself to a person in marriage, God will hold you accountable for your behavior during it. You cannot control the behavior of anyone else, only your own.